3 Secrets To Keep Him Coming Back For More
>If you’d like to learn how to understand how
a man thinks and responds to you on a date…
and how to know for certain where he is in his
own life and that his feelings for you are real
and genuine… then you need to read THIS:
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Dear Miss,
What if you could date without the worry or fear of
rejection?
What if you were the one deciding if there would be
a second date… instead of having a great time and then
wondering if the guy was ever going to call again?
What if you suddenly found that YOU were calling
the shots, instead of waiting on a man?
Right now I’m going to show you where most women
go wrong with men on dates… and what to do about it.
Keep reading to learn how to experience the kind of
CERTAINTY and CONFIDENCE most women think only
a few lucky or “super-model type” women get to enjoy.
Wouldn’t it be great to know for sure that you could keep
a man coming back for more after every date if you were
interested in him?
Good, then let’s get started…
Tell me if this has ever happened to you…
You meet a man and you hit it off.
You have unbelievable chemistry, as well as that
magical “connection” you just can’t explain.
He’s funny, sexy, successful, and sure of himself.
He’s the “real deal”.
You go out on a first date… and everything seems
PERFECT.
You laugh, the conversation flows freely… and at
the end of the night you share a passionate goodnight
kiss.
As he pulls away from you to leave, he’s looking at
you straight in the eyes and he says, “I’ll call you.”
You can’t wait to hear from him and see him again.
When you get home, you’re fantasizing about him
and enjoying the moments you just shared in your mind.
You can’t wait to connect with him again, and you feel
the urge to talk to him and be close to him again already.
So you’re about to call him, but then you stop and ask
yourself?
“Is it weird if I call or email him to let him know what a
great time I had… and that I’m thinking of him? Or should
I wait to hear from him?”
Your mind races… but you decide to wait ? you don’t
want to seem to anxious or into him too soon, or mess
things up.
But then those little voices start in your head about what
might happen, how he feels, and what he’s thinking?
And you start to wonder… is he really going to call?
And when?
Is he really interested in you, or is this going to just be
another disappointment.
Your mind starts filling with all kinds of thoughts about
him and what might happen as a day or so passes.
Your heart jumps with anticipation every time the
phone rings.
You check your caller I.D. and email every ten minutes.
You can’t stop thinking, “why hasn’t he called me!?”
As one day of waiting turns into a couple of days? you
realize, with a sinking feeling, that he isn’t going to call.
What happened from the time you shared your kiss and
he said “I’ll call you tomorrow” until now?
Was he lying?
Did he not feel what you felt?
Or was it something else?
Did he not call because of something about YOU?
Let’s talk about what’s going on here? and what you
need to do about it for a more successful single life or
relationship when it comes to men.
The truth is, there are literally 100 million different
reasons a man might not call a woman back.
But THE ONLY REASON that actually matters is the
reason that has to do with what YOU DID.
In other words? you can’t control the rest of the
world when it comes to men and dating.
You can’t control what men think, how they think,
or what they choose to do.
But you can control what YOU DO.
Here’s the point to this?
If you know the right way to be around a man on a
first date, or into a committed relationship? then you’re
no longer going to have to play the neurotic mental
“guessing game” of trying to figure out what’s going to
happen, and why he’s acting the way he is.
Instead, you’ll get to literally AVOID the stressful,
unsure, anxious situations TONS of other women struggle
with their entire lives.
And you’ll KNOW how to get a guy to call back
because he’s wanting to be with you.
On the other hand…
If you DON’T KNOW how to be with a man, and how
to make him feel an intense level of ATTRACTION when
he’s with you… then you’re going to have to experience
these same disappointments with men over and over… and
keep wondering what it is you’re doing wrong.
Don’t get stuck there in your life.
The road to change is in creating a shift in the way you
think… and therefore in the way you approach men, dating,
and relationships.
Let’s start moving you down that road by asking an
important question…
If you’ve ever had a dating situation like the one I
described above… what was it that the man was picking up
on or “reading” about you that made him not call you again?
Here’s the deal…
During the course of a date, the way you talk, the way
you move and hold your body, and the way that you think
and talk about yourself leads a man to very clear conclusions
about who you are.
If you do some things early on that signal “danger” to him,
then he’s going to very quickly make up his mind about not
wanting to spend his time with you.
And once he has his mind made up… it’s almost like
concrete drying. The way he thinks about you, and the way
he FEELS when he’s around you is basically set in stone.
I know this doesn’t sound “nice” or fair… but it’s the way
our minds work.
The good news here is that if you do just a few important
things RIGHT from the get go… anything that might go
wrong will become an unimportant detail.
Translation: If you get the few key “elements” down of
what makes a man respond in a positive way to a woman
both physically and EMOTIONALLY… then almost no
amount of “negative” stuff that would turn him off otherwise
is going to change the way he feels about you.
The flip side of this is… if you do a few of the critical
things WRONG from the start with a man… then almost
no amount of “positive” experiences, making up for it, or
trying to do nice things and getting him to like you will help.
He just won’t “feel it” for you… and he won’t want to
be with you.
If you’re ready to learn how to avoid these critical mistakes
most women make early on that virtually guarantee a man
won’t feel a deeper level of ATTRACTION for them…
And you want to know all there is to know about how
a man “reads” a woman when he’s dating her… then you need to
read THIS:
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Ok, now I’m going to share 3 secrets with you that
are sure to make the man in your life, or a man you go
out on a date with, think about you all the time and want
to be with you.
Let me ask you… have you ever stopped to think about
how a man approaches dating with a woman?
I mean, really stopped and thought about it and put
yourself inside his head?
One of the first obvious things that stands out about
men around dating is how they like to “keep it light”.
But let me put it this way…
Have you ever met a man who wanted to know your
intentions for a relationship on your first date… because
he didn’t want to wake up five years later in another dead
end relationship that didn’t fulfill him emotionally?
Have you ever dated a man who was so emotional on a
first date that he had to apologize for telling you too
much about his ex? It’s just that he felt so comfortable
with you…
Or have you ever had a man drink too much on a first
date and start putting down other men around you who
were good-looking?
“Look at him… What a slut.”
Or… “I bet his pecks are fake.”
I know this sounds ridiculous because men don’t talk
this way about other men, but you get the point.
These are the typical mistakes women make on first dates.
And they are all “danger” signs for a man.
Now, maybe you haven’t made these particular mistakes,
but I’m willing to bet you have had a few special ones
of your own.
And when you made them, odds are you didn’t even realize
you were making a mistake in the first place… and that what you
were doing was being picked up on a man’s finely tuned “escape!”
radar.
The more you can understand how a man thinks, and why
he feels interested and attracted to one woman and not another…
then the better off you’re going to be.
Have you ever had a friend who just couldn’t miss with
a guy?
It was almost like no matter what, she had a flock of men
after her, and could pick and choose from all the greatest
guys around?
She could even do or say things that if other women did them,
the man would be sure to leave.
The weirdest part about women like this is that they are
rarely “nicer” or “prettier” than you ? but they always seem
to be able to get what they want.
So what do women like this have that other women
don’t?
Below are 6 of the most important traits that make women
effortlessly ATTRACTIVE and IRRESISTIBLE to a man…
to where men can’t stop thinking about them.
As you read these, try and picture a woman you know who
has an easy time with men and dating ? and how these 6
traits relate to her.
And then take each one and see how it relates to you and
the way you think, feel, and interact with men.
Here they are:
1) Confidence & Status
I’ll explain this by showing you how it works in men,
since it’s a little complex to understand at first…
Have you ever been out with a man and he was warm,
smart, successful, and even handsome?
But the more you talked, the more started to realize
that there was this part of him that was a little too “nice”,
and a little too accommodating?
Each time a question came up like “Where should we
go?”… or “What should we order?”… he’d kind of shy
away and say something like, “Ummm, I don’t know really.
What do YOU want?”… and he’d wait to see how you were
going to react or respond before doing anything.
He couldn’t have been a sweeter guy. The kind of guy
you know for sure would be a loyal, loving companion.
But you just couldn’t bring yourself to FEEL ATTRACTED
to him. There was something about him that was constantly
seeking your approval and wanted you to like him and accept
him just a little too much.
And ultimately, this completely turned you off… even
though you knew a “nice” guy would be the best thing for
you.
You almost felt sorry for him as he tried passively to give
you a kiss at the end of your date. But there was nothing
there for you inside with him.
Like always, he went home frustrated and upset that you
didn’t like him after all the nice things he did and said for
you… and he became further convinced that women just
don’t like guys who are thoughtful and generous and polite.
But what’s REALLY going on here?
Do women not like men who are thoughtful and polite?
Of course not.
Women don’t feel attracted to men BECAUSE a man
is thoughtful and polite.
Women feel attracted to a man because he has a certain
confidence and well-being about him. An “energy”. And
something in the way he carries himself and interacts with
the world.
And if a man is thoughtful and polite on top of this, it’s
a fantastic “bonus” quality about him.
So how does all this work? And apply to you?
At the root of all of this is the level of confidence and
personal “status” a man or a woman holds for themselves.
Women have a similar kind of “internal status” that they
carry. And a woman’s beliefs about herself and about how
men see her, make up the level of “status” she projects.
And it’s all this that speaks LOUD AND CLEAR to a
man in every word a woman says. Even when she doesn’t
know it.
If the way you think and feel about yourself says “low
status” to men… then odds are men aren’t going to get that
strong gut-level FEELING and ATTRACTION when they’re
around you ? no matter what you try to do or say.
A man’s just going to think you’re “sweet” or “nice”…
and feel kind of sorry for you for trying so hard.
2) Emotional “Fitness” & Control
What do you think men talk and gossip and joke
about most when it comes to women and dating?
Women who act “hysterical” and emotionally OUT
OF CONTROL.
But why is this such a popular subject for men? (it’s
also a negative stereotype)
There are 2 reasons here:
1) Because most men have no idea how to deal with and
handle a woman and her most intense emotions.
2) Men literally feel frustrated, irritated, and overwhelmed
around intense emotions that don’t seem to have a clear
solution, or a way to get resolved… and they want to avoid
these situations and feelings as much as humanly possible.
Now… knowing this, how do you think a man will
react when he’s on a date with a woman, things are going
great, and then she opens up and a flood of intense emotions
she’s been wanting to share with someone and get off her
chest comes out?
For her, it’s like she’s finally found a real, mature, open
man that she feels comfortable with and can talk to.
For him, he’s already getting that uncomfortable feeling
that getting closer to this woman will open a flood-gate of
intense emotions and “drama” that feel “negative” to him.
Let’s apply this kind of thinking to the dating story I
told earlier.
So you’re sitting there waiting for this man to call after
your first date… and he doesn’t get back to you very soon.
A few days pass and you’ve been “stewing” on why he
hasn’t called, and what it means.
And then he calls… you pick up the phone, and the
second he hears your voice he can tell something is just
not right.
There’s this subtle resistance in your voice. Like
you’re holding something back. It’s intense, and he can
sense it… but to him it only means one thing ? “warning,
emotional drama ahead”.
And that’s all it takes for him to see you in a way
that makes him not want to be around you again.
Now, of course it’s not “wrong” for you to feel what
you feel if a guy hasn’t called you.
But if you’re at all concerned with moving past that
“casual” early dating stage where you and a man don’t
know each other well, and it’s easy for you to
misunderstand each other… then you’ll need to learn how
to use your emotions to CONNECT with a man…
Instead of driving him away.
I think of this as what I call “emotional fitness” ? being
in the right emotional shape so that it’s easy for you to
have a real, healthy, natural, honest relationship with a
man.
If you often times find yourself driving men away with
the emotions, thoughts, and feelings you have… and you
wish you knew of a way to help “center” yourself and get
more of a handle on the way you respond with a man…
I’ve got an amazing resource for you that will help you
quickly regain control and get back in touch with that
natural part of you that radiates confidence and beauty
with a man.
If you’re tired of not feeling the way you want to feel,
and you’re ready for growth, learning, and help on a
DEEPER LEVEL… then you need to read THIS:
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3) Never “Sacrificing Yourself” For A Man Or A Relationship
Have you ever been in a relationship that was so
consuming that you sacrificed some of your interests
and passions?
Only to regret it later after things fell apart?
If you’re like lots of women, you swore you wouldn’t
ever “trade” part of your life for a man ever again.
You don’t ever want to feel “small” and unappreciated
in that same way ever again.
But of course… you did the same thing with the very
next guy.
Why?
Because somewhere inside, you trick yourself into
thinking that in order to make a man happy and for
your relationship to work… you have to be the one to
make the things work, since he’s not going to.
But somewhere inside you know better.
You know that sacrificing ultimately isn’t going to
end up making you feel the way you want to feel, or
living the way you want to live with a man.
Now let’s shift gears for a second…
Remember your friend who is a dating “natural”.
I bet she has a full life with interests and events, and
all kinds of people she sees and who want to be around her.
And as a result, the man she’s with is LUCKY if she
can fit him in… and he finds the challenge of being with her
and getting her attention VERY ATTRACTIVE.
She’s her own person… and she isn’t waiting for a man
to help her live a great life on any level.
When she’s with a man… she doesn’t stop living the life
she knows fulfills her and makes her happy, loving, and
DESIRABLE to a man.
If you’d like to learn how a man really and truly thinks
when he’s on a date… and how to communicate and
connect with him on a deep emotional level… then I
strongly suggest you check out my latest CD/DVD
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Relationship”.
In this program, I not only show you how and why
men react and respond to you when you share your
true feelings and emotions… but I show you exactly
how to get him to truly LISTEN and RESPOND to
you in a positive and supportive way.
Most women never learn how and why the men that
they date close off and shut them out when it comes time
to connect on a real emotional level.
Don’t continue the frustrating cycle in your life with
men of trying to share your thoughts and feelings… only
to end up frustrated and upset that he withdraws and stops
wanting to communicate with you at all.
If you’re ready to break through to a new level of
communication, sharing, and understanding with a man
by learning how he thinks and why he responds the way
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I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of
luck in Life and Love.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
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