Hi Casanova,
By now, you should know how to engage a woman in conversation.
Now, though that’s an important skill to have, it’s only HALF the
battle.
The other half of the battle is moving from the MEET to getting her
ATTRACTED to you.
Have you ever seen any of those cheesy dating shows on TV? You
know the ones I’m talking about, where a camera crew follows a guy
and a girl around on different dates and sees if they’re going to
“hook up” or not?
I must admit, these shows are guilty little pleasures of mine. But
you can actually learn a LOT from watching them.
For instance, there’s always a point in these shows where you can
tell if the guy is going to score with his woman or not.
This usually happens over dinner where they’re actually forced to
interact with each other as opposed to going out and doing stupid
“fun” activities the producers of the shows set them up on.
This is where the man and the woman actually get to know one
another and find out if they’re “compatible.”
But the thing is, if you watch these shows closely… there’s a
pattern as to which guys get the girl and which guys don’t!
And typically, this pattern has to do with one thing:
THE GUY’S ABILITY TO FLIRT.
And when I say “the guy’s ability to flirt,” I’m talking about the
guy’s ability to introduce a SEXUAL energy into his interaction
with the woman.
If a guy doesn’t know how to flirt with a woman, he’s going to fail
to arouse any type of “spark” or “chemistry” between the two, and
she’s not going to be interested. This can either be from a
complete LACK of sexual energy, or too much sexual energy.
If a guy is too afraid to introduce the sexual element into his
interactions with women, they’re not going to look at him in a
sexual manner. They may enjoy his company, they may even like him
a good deal, but they won’t be able to turn that into a “romantic”
feeling.
On the flip side, if a guy goes too far and pours on the sexual
element, this is going to turn a girl off, because there’s no
mystery or challenge. If you take the game out of the “game
playing,” you don’t have a chance to win. Remember, though women
enjoy sexuality, if you focus too strongly on it, they’re going to
feel as though you only want to use them for sex, and they won’t
want to be with you if that’s the case (though there are exceptions
to that rule, but for the most part, that’s how it works).
So the trick is to introduce the sexual element into your
interactions with the woman, but keep it subtle and slowly escalate
it!
Back to these dating shows, if you watch the dinner scenes, you
will always see that the guy who starts to talk about sex and flirt
with the girl in a non-overt way, he will usually be making out
with her by the end of the date!
This is because flirting communicates to the woman you’re with that
you’re interested in getting sexual with her, and you’re giving her
the opportunity to do the same with you.
So the real trick when it comes to flirting is communicating your
sexuality in a non-threatening and fun way.
To flirt with a woman, you need to display two things:
1. Male sexuality
2. Confidence
Remember: Women are empathetic and emotional. They respond to
strong emotion and feelings.
This means if you effectively send out your male sexuality and
confidence when flirting, women WILL respond to it!
When it comes to communicating these traits, the non-verbal element
is always more important than the verbal aspect. Too many guys
think that just by chatting up a girl, they will be able to
successfully get her attracted.
WRONG!
Actions speak louder than words. Women will pick up on what you do
way more than what you say. Your body language, voice tonality,
and gestures will communicate all you need without you actually
having to say anything.
For instance, let’s say you see a beautiful woman and you walk up
to her and say “Hello.” Now, depending on how you walk up to her,
and how you say hello, you can communicate anything from “You are
the sexiest woman alive and I want to make mad, passionate love to
you,” to “I’m just being polite and I’m not interested in you at
all.”
When you communicate your male sexuality, you must show that you’re
interested in a romantic interaction with a woman. Making jokes
about sex, talking about sex, winking at her, teasing her… these
are all ways you can communicate your sexuality.
When it comes to the confidence aspect, it comes down to you not
being afraid to communicate your sexuality to her, and not making
apologies for it.
Often times, a guy will make a forward comment to a woman, and then
retreat with a “I’m just kidding,” or “I didn’t mean that,” type
comment.
This is the wrong thing to do.
If you look at a woman and playfully say something like “I know you
WANT me,” and she looks at you funny, stick to your guns. Don’t
retreat. Take it further. Tell her “You’re trying to seduce me.
You’re trying to get in my pants!” Just keep it light and playful,
and she’ll come around.
And if she doesn’t, it might be time to find a new woman to flirt
with.
Flirting can be quite powerful because it not only communicates
your interest in the woman you’re with, but HER interest in YOU.
If you flirt with a woman and she flirts back by playing along –
guess what?
IT’S GAME ON!
If she doesn’t reciprocate, chances are she’s not interested and
you’re wasting your time.
Use your skills at reading body language and flirting to gauge where
you’re woman is at and how far you need to take it.
In my book, The Art Of Approaching, I go into great detail on the
art of flirting and reading body language. By the time you finish
that section of the book, you’ll be a MASTER at flirting with
women, and you’ll take 90% of the guess-work out of dating.
If you haven’t downloaded my book yet, do so here:
http://clicks.aweber.com/z/ct/?vFO3bn5djowM5YPFMkpkwQ
Flirting is such an important skill that most men don’t know how to
do, just by learning it you will see your success rate skyrocket!
Don’t waste any time and apply what I’ve given you here and in my
book as soon as you can.
Wishing you success with women,
Joseph Matthews
PS: In the next issue of this special minicourse, we’ll talk about
what you need to do to engage a woman’s imagination to get her
completely captivated with you.
Copyright 2006 by Bizlancer, Inc.
