Dating Advise for Men In Waikiki

Hi Casanova,

Well, you’ve made it to day 6. Only one more tip to go!

That’s more messages than most people who subscribe to this course
will read. And you know what? Those are the people who won’t
improve with women. They’re too lazy to change and aren’t
motivated enough to learn something that will change their lives.

You, my friend, are not one of those people.

By now, you should have learned all the basic fundamentals you need
to improve your success with women. I go into great detail about
these concepts in my book, and should you study that, I have no
doubt you’ll begin to have incredible success in your love life.
But just by reading this far, you should have a good idea of what
you need to do initially.

In this chapter of the mini-course, I’m going to cover an issue
that most men mess up at.

See, there are a lot of guys out there who don’t have any problem
meeting women and talking to them. But for some reason, they just
can’t quite keep the conversation going to a point where they’re
able to ask the girl out.

Let me make something clear: THE WHOLE POINT OF YOU MEETING A GIRL
IS TO ASK HER OUT!

So if you fail to do that, then you’ve just wasted your time.

Seriously, unless you were just bored and looking to pass the time
by chatting someone up, you’ve accomplished nothing.

Whenever you see a girl you want to meet, your goal should be to
GET HER OUT ON A DATE.

Period.

End of story.

And in order to do that, you have to build a certain amount of
trust and comfort in her before she will willingly give you her
(correct) phone number.

I know guys who can get a girl’s number within a couple minutes of
meeting her. But the quality of that number isn’t always the best.
About 90% of the time, it’s a fake number the girl gave him just
to get away from him, and the other 10% of the time, the girl isn’t
interested enough to go out with him.

So going for the number too soon before you’ve created enough trust
and comfort could dramatically lower your chances of seeing her
again.

So here’s what I recommend…

In the last lesson, we covered how to captivate the girl’s
imagination with storytelling, and before that we covered how to
start conversations with women using an Opener.

Now it’s time to apply those lessons.

When you first meet a girl, it is usually a good idea to have at
least 3 openers and 3 stories memorized that you can talk to them
about. Be sure that the openers and stories are good, open-ended,
and interactive conversation pieces.

Then, you’re going to STACK them.

What do I mean by that? Let’s break it down scientifically…

Let’s say you have Opener A + Story A. You meet the girl with
Opener A, which leads into Story A. As soon as Story A runs its
course, you change topics with Opener B, which then leads into
Story B. Then you repeat the process with Opener C and Story C.

See how that works?

In my experience, by the end of three stories, the woman usually
feels like she knows you enough and is comfortable enough with you
to want to see you again. THIS is the time to get her number!

I know that some guys might find this prospect scary, because this
could be where she rejects you.

The thing I want you to remember at this point is that women KNOW
when a man approaches them, they’re interested in them. And if you
DO NOT ask her for her number, she will assume you actually AREN’T
interested in her, or don’t have enough balls to act on your
interest, and move on.

DO NOT FALL INTO THIS TRAP!

Even if you KNOW you’re going to crash and burn with this girl, ask
for her number anyway! That’s the whole GOAL of the interaction,
so if you’re going to fail, fail all the way. Don’t leave the
woman you were talking to feeling like you didn’t cross the finish
line.

Remember: You’re going after the DATE. Get it or die trying!

Here’s the sequence I usually follow when getting the date:

1. Invite her out right then and there. Either I’ll ask her what
she’s doing right now and if she wants to get a drink. If that’s
not convenient, I’ll ask her if she wants to meet up later that
night.

2. If she says “Yes” to meeting up later, I’ll then ask for her
number. If she says “No,” I’ll still ask for her number because I
like her and I want to see her again.

3. Finally, I’ll ask her when a good time to call is.

That simple 3-step process will get you a TON of dates.

Setting up the next meeting during the initial interaction is ideal.
If you can’t do that, get her number and try to set it up later.

Some guys say you should go for an email address instead of a phone
number. I’ve had mixed results with this tactic. I still think
the phone number is the way to go. Email has too many variables
that aren’t in your favor. What if she doesn’t respond to your
initial email? If you keep sending emails, you run the risk of
looking desperate.

If you call and she doesn’t answer, you can continue to call until
you catch her. Once you get her on the phone and talking, then you
can set up the next date. You can also ask her about email and
Instant Messaging info. Usually, you want to establish “second
contact” before going that route though.

In my book, The Art Of Approaching, I give you everything you need
to know to successfully ask a woman out on a date, from reading her
body language, to flirting, to creating trust and comfort, it’s all
in there. If you haven’t picked up your copy today, you can do so
by clicking on the link below:

http://clicks.aweber.com/z/ct/?e5ozUJouIvmEVcssRwh4fA

And remember, you must always approach every girl with the
intention of getting her out with you! Unless you do that, you’re
just wasting your time.

Wishing you success with women,

Joseph Matthews

PS: In the last issue of this special minicourse, we’ll talk about
how to improve your social life so meeting women becomes insanely
easy. This will probably be the most important issue of the
minicourse, so don’t miss it!

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