Dating Advise for Men In Waikiki

How To Meet Women In Nightclubs And Streets

Question From A Reader:

Dear Joseph,

I am a student and I wanted to know how to meet girls in the
most crucial areas with plenty girls. Here are the situations First
:- The Nightclub where the music is so loud, where there are too
many people with little or no space to move, and the girls are
dancing with themselves,. The main idea is that it is very hard and
almost pointless to start a conversation in these areas. How do I
do it?

Second :- How do I meet girls who are walking along the street
maybe going somewhere. Like am in school, how do I meet a girl who
is walking down maybe to her dorm or somewhere else. The point is
where am from people do this to women all the time. But here in
America, its almost considered weird b’cos you pop out of nowhere
and shes not expecting it.

Finally, what do you do when a girl tells you she has a
boyfriend? should you leave her alon or continue your business on
getting her. What if she is totally in love with her boyfriend, how
do you win her over?

–Xion

My Response

Okay, I guess I’ll try tackling each question in order…

First, Nightclubs ARE very difficult venues. Unless you’re
specially suited to the party-style nightlife, these venues will be
a bit daunting. And even if you are predisposed to this type of
pick up, you will still have to deal with lots of competition from
other men.

That said, it’s not impossible to meet women in nightclubs. But it
will require you to be a little more outgoing and aggressive than
other venues.

First off, when I’m in a club, I tend to like to hang out in
open-air areas where I can talk to other people easier. Patios and
right outside the club can be good for this. Most clubs will have
some form of outdoor area where you can hang out — especially
places like New York and Los Angeles where you’re not allowed to
smoke inside.

The dance floor can also be quite effective. If you like to dance,
go out there and try dancing with the women who are dancing by
themselves. If they’re not into it, move on. If they are, it’s PLAY
time! =)

Also, keep in mind the time at which you’re going to the club.
Usually, the later it gets, the easier it is to pick up a girl
(this is because as it gets later, people are more pre-disposed to
“hook up” due to alcohal, desperation, boredom, etc.).

Second, to approach women on the street takes a bit of finesse. In
America, people do tend to be a bit more private than in other
parts of the world. My best advice in this respect is to actually
follow the girl for a bit and see where she’s going. If she stops
off at a coffee shop or a bus stop, or whatever, THAT is the time
to approach her! If it looks like she’s going someplace you can’t
follow her into (like her home/dorm, for instance) then you’ll have
to take the chance and try approaching her cold. But make it a
quick approach and include a time constraint (“I know you’re on
your way somewhere, this’ll only take a second…”), get her number
as quick as you can, then move on.

Finally, when it comes to the “boyfriend” thing, that’s a matter of
personal taste. Some guys don’t want to mess with that, others
don’t care. The thing is, most women aren’t THAT committed to their
boyfriends, so it’s not as big of an obstacle as you might think.

The important thing to do in this situation is to try and “read”
the woman. Sometimes, a girl will tell you she has a boyfriend when
she really doesn’t because she wants to politely reject you (and
sometimes she really does have a boyfriend and wants to stay
faithful to him). If this is the case, you have to look at the
signals she’s giving you to see if she’s actually into you or not.

If a woman does like you and IS in fact into you, she will usually
with-hold the fact that she has a boyfriend. And if she does bring
it up, she wants you to take the lead and “sweep her off her feet”
so she won’t have to feel guilty about cheating on him. So when
that’s the case, it’s time to pump up the agressiveness on you’re
pick up.

If you want to learn how to read a woman, check out my book The Art
Of Approaching, I devote an entire section of my book to this. I
go into great detail on how to spot the subtle signs a woman gives
off to let you know she’s interested in you, and how to use this to
your advantage!

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Wishing you success!

Joseph Matthews

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