Using “Cocky & Funny” Humor To Attract Women
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>This technique that I call “Cocky & Funny” is
my favorite EASY way to make women feel that
great feeling called ATTRACTION for you… with
only your COMMUNICATION. If you’d like to learn
how to use it like a pro, go check THIS out:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/16874/CockyComedy/
***QUESTION***
Hey -
I am 18 years old and just graduated high school.
I used to be a MAJOR wuss and when I was younger I
was always a shy kid who was picked on a lot
because I was a short, skinny kid that never stood
up for myself. And worst of all, I never took
advantage of high school to get girls! I started
getting your newsletter earlier this year and the
cocky + funny attitude changed my life in more
ways than one. I hang out with guys that get the
hottest high school girls you can ever imagine.
Not only do they get 9′s and 10′s, I see these
girls obsess over them. I was around them so much
that I tried to model thier behavior around girls
and I noticed that EVERYTHING you preach about,
comes to them NATURALLY. Every tip of advice
you’ve given to guys ACTUALLY works, and Ive seen
it first hand.
I started using cocky + funny myself and even
use lines that Ive seen my friends use in past
cases. I saw a HOT girl in the mall and she was
checking herself out in a pocket mirror so I said
“don’t worry, your hair doesn’t look THATTT bad”.
She started laughing even though I just made fun
of her! I asked for her email and when she said
she doenst have the internet, I used your line
“well do you have electricity”? AGAIN the girl
laughed, and I ended up getting her phone # and I
hooked up with her that weekend!
MY QUESTION – my natural personality has
transformed from a wussy shy nice kid to a guy
that’s gonna bust your balls, but a nice guy at
heart. I made a lot more girl “friends” too, but
whenever they try to tell me their sad stories, I
let them know Im not their boyfriend and do not
care. Whenever I gain the courage to use
cocky+funny, it WORKS but my problem is even
though I’ve seen this work in action, I fear I
don’t know enough cocky+funny lines to keep up a
conversation with a girl. Also, do you recommend
hitting on random strangers you see, because my
friends say they never really hit on strangers
unless they have a reason to go up and talk to
them. My friends also say to ALWAYS have 5
“project girls” and never focus on one girl. Is
this true? please write back.
E from NYC
>>>MY COMMENTS:
It’s interesting, because I actually discovered
the Cocky and Funny technique by watching guys who
were good with women. In fact, a guy who is now a
good friend was trying to explain the concept to
me a few years back… and he was the first one to
say “Cocky and Funny”. Of course, I had no idea
what he was talking about at the time. It really
made no sense to me.
But, after I started working with it and
watching other guys who were really successful
with women, I learned how it worked.
It sounds like you’re really getting it -
congrats!
As for your questions…
Don’t worry about being able to “come up with
enough lines to keep up a conversation”. Just do
what you can, and enjoy yourself. A few Cocky and
Funny lines used here and there are MUCH better
than nothing at all.
If you feel like approaching strangers, great.
If you just realize that most women are going to
be nice, but some will be either unavailable or
unfriendly then you’ll be fine. I have personally
had great success meeting “strangers”, and as my
good friend Rick says: Every friend you have
started out as a stranger…
And as for the “5 project girls”, you’re
cracking me up over here. If you like the idea of
staying single and dating a lot of different
women, then this is the way to do it! Just make
sure they don’t turn into your personal
“psychological projects”.
Thanks for your email.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave….
I’m a premed student who has been subscribing to
your newsletter for quite a while now. I’ve been
meaning to buy your book but im not in the habit
of using a credit card so ill have to open an
account especially for this. Anyway, i’ve been
going out with this girl for 9 months now. She is
smart, attractive, and funny. the way i landed
her was by being cocky funny. EXTREMELY cocky
funny. i was always one step ahead of her. It was
kind of like “Dont even TRY to challenge me, im
already inside your head!”. everything was cool.
but to tell the truth (and no offense) i just kind
of got tired of the constant effort…..so i
cooled it off a bit not always seizing the
opportunity to remind her just who it is she’s
dealing with. And i think i got screwed. Now i
feel like i’ve turned into a wuss….and i HATE IT
!!! no..I LOATHE IT !!!!!!!!!! When i turn on the
macho act she’s a pussy cat again. You see i want
someone to whom i can genuinely be….just nice
to, with her appreciating it and NOT taking
advantage. i mean since this is a long-term
relationship i want someone who will give me a
smooth ride without all that continuos
maintenance. I dont wanna be cocky and tough all
my life with her, sometimes a guy just wants to
relax. Is it possible?? F.Z, Lebanon
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ooooooo, good question.
I’ve seen a trend in the way guys who are
learning to be Cocky and Funny and to stay in
control change.
As they’re learning the techniques, they become
more and more attractive to women. Then, they meet
a really amazing woman – a woman that was
previously “out of their league” and they decide
to start a relationship.
As soon as they start getting closer, the guy
begins to put aside the things that worked, and
start being more and more submissive… which, of
course, drives this new woman away.
Then I get an email saying “I want to be nice
and sweet and a good guy but still have all the
super hot women calling me 24/7″.
Here’s what I say:
“BEING YOURSELF” IS A PRIVELEGE THAT YOU HAVE
TO EARN, NOT A RIGHT.
And the way that you earn it is to learn what
it takes to make women feel ATTRACTION, learn what
it takes to NOT drive women away, then make these
things part of “YOURSELF”.
Are you with me here?
The problem is that “being yourself” for a lot
of guys means “being the type of guy that women
don’t feel any ATTRACTION for”.
If you can’t make a woman feel the emotion of
ATTRACTION, then there’s really nothing I can do
to help you. If you’re not willing to do the work
and make the changes more or less permanent, then
you’re going to have a long uphill battle.
And in your case, you have to realize that this
woman was attracted to you for a REASON, and if
you stop that REASON, then you’re going to stop
the ATTRACTION.
***QUESTION***
Whats goin on Dave?
I would love to say how great your stuff works,
but I haven’t had much luck with it as of yet. I
have seen it put to good use though. My bro does
the whole cocky/funny routine naturally and I see
all its power. Most of the time I was Mr. Nice-
Guy. and, of course, it didn’t work as much as I
would like. Which is why I’m writing this e-
mail.(duh)
My problem is I’m missing the key ingredient to
your ‘super recipe,’ funny. The way I see it,
cocky is like garlic, by itself it is repulsive
and disgusting. But when used as a seasoning to
another main dish (funny), it can do wonders. I’m
missing the main dish. Anyone can be cocky, but I
lack in the funny department. So where do I start
to fix this? Thanks, P in NJ
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Humor has a structure, and it can be learned.
Some people have an easier time learning how to be
funny than others, but I’ve seen some not-too-
funny people become VERY funny with practice.
Read some books, watch Comedy Central, and
practice. Start a journal and write down funny
lines you hear so you can use them later.
Get with your Bro and watch him. Ask him for
advice and ideas. Practice. You can learn how to
be funny, and it’s important that you do if you
want to attract women!
***COMMENT***
Dave,
I know that you put real stories in these
letters because I sent one in and it appeared
exactly as I had written it. I laughed till I
cried over the “fat, pimply, and hairy” story.
You are “Da man” I look forward to your wit in
these letters and I must admit I’m going to buy
your book. GJ
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, all of the email letters I print in my
newsletters are ALL real. Every single one of
them. I wish I had more time in the day, because I
get hundreds of them a week…
Thanks for the compliments, and enjoy.
***QUESTION***
Ok David, first off, I would like to say thank you
for taking the years that you did to get all of
this great info., and then be generous enough to
spread the knowledge. Here is my situation. I knew
this girl back in high school, and I haven’t seen
her since graduation (about 2 yrs ago). I bumped
into her the other day and WOW (she is a 9.5
easy). Well, having not yet tried out any of your
techniques, I thought “What the hell, let’s go for
it.” It worked. The c/f technique was golden. Got
her email AND number. Well, we eventually went out
and had a great time. A couple of days later, I
went over to see her new place, and well, things
got a little wild. (it all started with your
amazing kiss technique- thanks again) So here’s
the deal. She likes me a lot, and I like her a
lot, but I have been playing back in order to keep
the ugly head of the “wussy” out of the picture.
When is a good time (or is there a good time at
all) to be serious with her? Do I bust on her all
the time, b/c I don’t want her to think I am a
jerk? Any help you can give is great.
Thanks again. ME
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I don’t exactly know what you mean by
“serious”.
If you mean “When can I talk about how I’m sad
because my dog got run over and my inner child
needs a hug”, then NEVER is the answer.
Well, maybe you can have one “serious”
conversation like this on the 10th date, and it
can last no longer than 5 minutes.
Just stay away from heavy emotional issues,
problems, drama, and general WUSS topics.
If you need a friend, GET A DOG!
lol… I forgot where that line is from, but I
love it.
Look man, if you feel like you might be in
danger of screwing it up because you can’t control
your INNER WUSSY, then you need to do some INNER
WORK. DEEP inner work. Go here for the cure:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/16874/DeepInnerGame/
***QUESTION***
Mr. DeAngelo,
Well, I’ve got to say, after trying many, many
different methods, yours have been the first ones
to work. I cut and pasted your online personal add
and sent it out to a few women on a college-
oriented site. This is after trying
(unsuccessfully) for many months to get any sort
of response from the women on the site. Before
reading the newsletters, I would’ve typically sent
out about 20 e-mails, and got 1 response if I was
lucky. This time, however, I sent out about 5 or
6, and got 3 replies the next day! Unbelievable!
Now, for the tricky part…getting the number and
the date. I’ve got some leads, and I want to keep
my C&F attitude up. I’m just normally funny, but
need practice at being cocky. (I’m either too
subtle, or too extreme, so I’m practicing at
finding a middle ground.) But, in the meantime,
what kind of C&F response would you give to a
University-aged woman?
G.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Good job.
There are all kinds of great topics you could
work with.
You could make fun of the classes they’re
taking, bust on them for taking easy classes,
accuse them of taking 10 years to get a 4 year
degree… the list is endless.
Since you’re going to be meeting these women at
some point, make sure you go and do things with
them that have “built in conversation value”. Go
to interesting, fun parts of town with unusual and
interesting shops.
This kind of thing creates all kinds of
opportunity for great comments… and it keeps the
energy up all by itself.
Now that you’re meeting women online, do
yourself a big favor and practice your skills
CHATTING with women.
Chatting is great because it slows the
conversation down to about 1/5 the normal speed,
and gives you time to plan out what you’re saying.
***QUESTION***
Dear Dave, I’m real sorry but I still cannot
figure out how to build bridges after getting the
email address. Normally the next day I send the
lady an email, she replies and then I can’t think
what on earth else to do. My overall goal is to
get with her – so can you help me man? I.M.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, I think I can help.
1) Set up a meeting for tea.
2) Have her stop by your place on the way to tea.
3) Have fun, interesting conversation.
4) Invite her back to your place.
5) Use the Kiss Test.
6) Use your creativity and imagination.
Don’t focus too much on “getting with her”,
just focus on getting to THE NEXT STEP.
In other words, when you email don’t say
something like:
“Hi, it was great meeting you. I’m single and
nice, and you seem like you’d make a great
girlfriend for a sweet, desperate loser like
myself.”
Stay off of heavy conversation. Don’t talk
about relationships and marriage, etc. Just talk
and enjoy yourself. But keep progressing as you
do.
As long as you relax and make each progressive
step easy and natural, you’ll be fine.
Again, just take it one step at a time.
***QUESTION***
Hi David:
I’m 42 and a bald, average, confident guy. After
being recently divorced after 24 yrs and
thoroughly confused about dating and what women
want. I bought [another dating book] and was even
more scared to do any of what was asked to do. I
bought your course and coupled with watching the
players in clubs I knew C&F was the answer. I used
it successfully on over (9) women since Jan/02 all
resulting in them wanting much, much more* than I
was willing to give. They all call from time-to-
time for fun!.
*Here is where I have the problem and it might
help others trying for this type of relationship.
I am single and love my Space and I want to have
fun for a while and eventually marry again I’m
looking for Her and it takes a while to see if she
is Her I get them hooked way too fast and not
trying to do so This is how: Women are attracted
to C&F, They want fun and excitement; I think I
know why they want funny for the fun things to do
in life (too many boring guys out there) and the
cocky part piques their inner flames to what could
happen as far as passion. If when you are
passionate with them you have to be a Leader and
show them as bad a boy as they can handle. This
has in all instances so far lead them to call me
and pursue me: the next day and weeks ahead. They
want a far deeper relationship. They want C&F in
their lives. These are not clingy people (7-9′s)
(24-44yrs) and profess to want to be friends
first. Email is great as it has a way of helping
them say things they wished they could say in
person. Do you have any wisdom on how to do C&F
and not hit all of her senses?
Thanks Again for C&F J.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
lol… you poor, poor dear. Sounds tough,
really.
I think you’re doing fine. You’re on the right
track, and I think that you’re going to find an
outstanding woman to have a longer-term
relationship with.
I personally think that the problem isn’t the
techniques you’re using, it’s that you’re now
seeing that YOU CAN CHOOSE A WOMAN, rather than
having HER CHOOSE YOU… and it’s making you far
more SELECTIVE than you were in the past.
When you’re seeing several attractive women at
the same time, you begin to realize that you can
have whatever you want. You no longer have to
settle.
This has the effect of making you a lot more
picky about what you’ll tolerate… and it makes
you see negatives a lot more clearly in women.
Again, I think you’re doing fine. Just stick
with it and you’ll find a great woman to marry
again, if that’s what you want.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave. I don’t think the cocky/funny technique
will work for me. I’m 19 y/o, 5′ 3″ and 117 lb. I
have an average build, dark hair and blue eyes. I
also have a fetish for girls with big bellies.
What do you think? Be honest.
SO
Birmingham, England
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, if I can get myself to stop laughing,
maybe I can answer you!
OK, let’s make sure I have the facts straight
here…
You’re five foot three, weigh 117, and LIKE
WOMEN WITH BIG BELLIES?
Honestly, I think you’re right… I don’t think
that the Cocky and Funny technique will work for
you… in fact
…I DON’T THINK ANYTHING IS GOING TO WORK FOR
YOU.
Make sure you don’t tell any of your other guy
friends about this. It might get ugly.
By the way, you may not have considered this,
but women with big bellies usually got them from
eating a lot… and my guess is that they might be
expensive dates.
Watch out.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Dave:
Dated someone for 4 years. Turned into a wussy
boy a couple times, and both times she left me for
the same guy. This guy was a selfish, conceited
jerk, but he was the ONLY guy she’s ever dated who
she couldn’t wrap around her finger. He was an
impossible challenge…and so her sexual
attraction to him was enormous. (Hmmm…is there
a lesson to be learned here…?) Since we broke up
about a year ago, I’ve been reading your
newsletters and your ebooks. Now I’M the
challenging one. I don’t flatter women with
compliments, I don’t buy drinks or flowers, I
split the dinner tab, I don’t always call (or call
back) every day, I keep my social life busy and
interesting. And I never ever EVER lose my
composure with a woman – no matter how much I’m
attracted to them. (In truth: I caved to one
woman, told her how attracted I was to her, and
instantly found myself in the “just friends” pit
of no return. Oops. Had to learn the hard way.)
Now every time a woman tries to test my level of
“wussiness” I completely annihilate them with a
cocky+funny comment…and they LOVE me for it.
And…of course…guess who suddenly wants to date
me again…
Thanks D, M.S. Chicago
P.S. Took this off the end of the 1st paragraph
above…it was getting too long, but I love this
perspective from a woman: While investigating this
illogical phenomenon, I asked a somewhat-
attractive female friend of mine “so…can you
shed any light onto the whole ‘why women are
attracted to jerks’ idea?” And her answer
(quote): “Because we’re too leary of a nice guy.
Nice guys creep me out. They seem like I can walk
all over them and I hate that. Women want a bit
of a challenge.”
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is truth from the mountain. Read it 100
times a day.
Print it and tape it to your computer monitor.
Put a copy in your wallet… next to the money
so you see it often.
Put one on your car sun visor and mirror.
And go read it again now.
***QUESTION***
Yes Dave, you are 100% correct. Even us older,
fatter, grayer, slower wusses can learn new
tricks. I went from a 4 time loser to being
called biggest old stud in town! Now that was a
hell of an ego boost! Especially since I’m 48 and
close to 300 lbs. and yes, at the moment, I have
steady dates for 3 days of the week every week and
5 others professing their love for me if only I
will come take them away.
Here are what I found to work:
1) Women over 35 expect you to be extremely
inventive with a cocky funny line or extremely
truthful. They all claim it is because they have
had so many used on them, they are totally immune
to them. I tend to go the extremely truthful
route. the ie. you look like the type of woman
who would like a funny witty, intelligent,
romantic friend. Have you found any lately??? I
want to shake their hand. Or something similar.
2) If you are emailing back and forth and they
want your picture within the first couple of
exchanges, run do not walk, that lady to the
discard pile immediately. Most of those are so
shallow they can not and will not see what they
are doing, no matter how funny and blunt you are.
I even tried the “what’s in it for me?” line, only
to get the reply of “me stupid, but only if I like
your picture”
3) When the lady says I don’t think I’m really
your type, you look them straight in the eye and
say “ok, plenty more where you came from” and turn
and walk away. 9 out of 10 of them will be
calling you in 48 hours.
4) They all know about arranging dates for the
week and finding the dates on the weekend. So tell
them you only have like Friday, Saturday OR Sunday
open but not all. Most will tell you to rearrange
your week to fit them in. The ones really really
interested will call you on Saturday to see if you
can go out on the spur of the moment.
5) I tell them all I am too much to handle and too
much to love, so being friends is just perfect.
But I have zero experience in this dating more
than one woman thing at a time. Do you have any
advice. Especially since I am sure to make a lot
of mistakes. Yeah, they all want to arrange more
time with me.
So you see, your techniques work. Even my 21 y/o
daughter who reads these occasionally says, “I
can’t agree all the way, but damn he sure got the
last 5 guys I dated nailed”
Keep up the good work Dave.
M.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Wow, more priceless wisdom.
To answer your question, the way to see more
than one woman at a time is to NOT SEE ANY OF THEM
TOO OFTEN.
When you see or talk to a woman more than once
or twice a week, it kicks in the natural
“relationship” emotions and patterns of
communication and behavior.
If you keep things to once a week, and
sometimes twice, you’ll tend to avoid this.
It’s also good to tell the women that you’re
seeing that you don’t think it’s a good idea to
get into a relationship too quickly with someone
you just met (I believe this is a very important
idea, myself).
Thanks for the great ideas.
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
I thoroughly enjoyed reading your book…very
enlightening. I’ve always found myself attracting
girls I’m not romantically interested in, while
crashing and burning with the hotties. It was
very confusing until I read your book. I realize
now that I was a wuss with the hotties by being a
typical “nice guy”, and that the more I acted
indifferent with the girls I didn’t like, the more
they ate it up. You gave me a new perspective on
what makes attraction work, and I’m glad to see
that your book pointed out that you don’t have to
be a jerk to be successful. My game has improved
but it still requires some refining. Lately I
find I’m stalling out between the first and second
date. So I’m wondering if I’m screwing up the date
itself or the follow-through. Here are the steps
I take after a date:
1) I call within two days to say I had a good time
and basically make contact. I end the
conversation first, and let her know I’ll give her
a shout in a couple days…just so I don’t seem
like I’m rushing into a second date.
2) I let two or three days pass and call to make
arrangements for a second date. At this point I
usually get a vague answer like “lets set
something up for next week”…and then it never
happens. Where is this falling apart and what
kind of follow-through do you use? Thanks for the
help, SF London, Ontario
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I’m going to have to guess at a few things, but
I’ll give it a shot.
From the sounds of it, you need to:
1) Stop with the “I had a good time” type comments
when you call for a follow up. You might
experiment with waiting longer to call… or
waiting less time to call. See what works best for
you. But don’t be so “nice”.
2) Do more things to make your date feel
ATTRACTION. Use what you’ve learned to really turn
the dial up. You might test progressing further on
the first date… maybe start getting physical
faster.
3) Make sure you keep her laughing, and keep
busting on her and treating her like a “friend” at
first. Remember the idea of acting like she’s your
Bratty Little Sister.
It sounds like you’re doing something on those
first dates that’s making the women resistant to
seeing you again… you need to figure out what it
is and STOP IT.
***QUESTION***
David,
On vacation in Mexico, a girl asked me if she was
“super hot” and I said “Yeah, you’re alright.”
Next thing you know she made it her business to
prove to me how hot she was, including some freaky
dancing, even flashing me, and a little lip
action. Moral: Never give them what the want. I
moved in to kiss a girl a little too early and she
backed away. So I went back to teasing her and on
the next attempt I went straight for the neck,
ears, hands in hair and well you wouldn’t believe
it; but it worked that time. Your book has a lot
of very good information, thank you for putting it
together. So here’s my question: This girl at my
gym is of those that I’ve always wanted to talk to
but never really had the chance. She was
bartending the other night and I told her I’d seen
her at the gym. She said “yeah, but I don’t make
it in there as much lately.” I replied “Yeah, I
can tell, you’re really letting yourself go.” Then
she gives me a shot and asks me if I’d help her
with her workout.” She also said she remembered me
from the gym and I said “So you were checking me
out?” So I get her number, not bad, eh? So I’m in
the bar for another hour with some friends and I
was going to order a drink from her later, but it
might’ve seemed like I wanted to talk to her
again. She seemed busy and didn’t look at me.
Seemingly wuss behavior or she’s just busy? Who
knows. That was on Saturday and I called her on
Wednesday, still no reply and today is Friday. I’m
thinking either calling her once more over the
weekend, asking about playing hard to get and if
she just randomly gives out shots, or maybe going
back to her bar in a week or two with some
friends. Again, thank you for all you’ve done and
thanks in advance for any suggestions. A.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I’m going to tell you something here, and leave
it to you to figure out why it’s important:
YOU SHOULD HAVE LEFT RIGHT AFTER YOU GOT HER
NUMBER.
This is SUPER ULTRA EXTRA important… and I
want you to consider it in your mind until you
figure out why.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
I got your e-mails for about a month before i
actually bought the books and I regret waiting so
long. I have never been so confident around
women. I stand as a security guard at the
entrance of a retail store and 8′s, 9′s, and some
10′s pass by me everyday. I used to turn my head
and stare away. Now I know what they want from
reading your book and I can look at them, talk to
them, and bust their balls even without ever
meeting them. I do have a problem though. I
took this beautiful girl out on a first date, the
C&F technique worked so well all night from the
movie to the dinner to the goodnight kiss (tongue
included) that we both definitely wanted a 2nd
date. So what’s the problem. She can’t stop
thinking about me or leaving me alone. I’m
getting 10 text messages a day from this girl that
I really only want to date a few times. I’m
enjoying this bein single dating around and she
wants me to be with her everyday. How can I slow
this down, without losing the C&F personality?
Thanks Dave. MM Kentucky
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Wow, another guy who my heart goes out to.
I need to write a book called “Cut Your Dating
In Half: A guide for guys who are too successful
with my materials.”
I think what you need to do is get together
with her and say: “Look, you’re acting like we’re
married, and you need to cool it. I think you’re
great, but I’m not interested in a relationship
right now, so if you want to keep seeing me, then
you’re going to need to chill.”
I realize that it sounds a little bit harsh,
but it’s the truth, and you need to be direct in a
situation like this one.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
When I first started reading your advice, I felt
that they were wildly off base. All my prior
success had been as what you would consider a
“wuss”. However, curiosity drove me to try out
your techniques and I found they increased my
dating considerably. I went from only occasional
dates, to having 3-4 dates every weekend.
However, I have two questions which I have not
found the answer to in your book. 1. How long
should I keep up the cocky/funny attitude? It’s
really unnatural for me, and I’m not sure when I
should drop it, and show a girl my true self. 2.
I have a good friend who I’ve been friends with
for a while. I guess she would consider me a
“girlfriend-man” I’d always be the one with the
sympathetic ear, listening to her problems and
such. Is it possible, after getting this deep in
the “friend-zone” to become more than friends with
her? I don’t want to risk ruining a friendship,
but I’ve very interested in dating her. How do I
do it? Thanks, S.S., Maine
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Great questions. To answer your first question,
WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO STOP DOING WHAT’S WORKING? I
realize that you may not have been “naturally”
Cocky and Funny before recently, but if it’s
working so well, why would you want to change it?
I get a lot of questions about this topic, and
I can really understand the point. You’d rather be
able to do what “comes naturally” to you and be
“yourself” around women.
But, if you look at your second question,
you’ll find that you actually spell out what
happens when you just “be yourself”. You turn into
“girlfriend-man”. You become a “friend”.
I don’t think that’s what you want.
But, instead of thinking as Cocky and Funny as
a process of “not being yourself”, instead think
of it as “being considerate of what a woman wants”
and providing it. I think that you can really
learn to enjoy being Cocky and Funny, and make it
part of your personality.
To answer your second question, it’s quite a
task to turn a girl “friend” into something
more… but it definitely can be done. I
personally have better things to do with my time,
but if you’re HELL BENT on doing it, then do this:
1) Stop talking to her so much.
2) Stop acting like a WUSS when you do talk to
her.
3) Start busting on her more and being
indifferent.
4) Tell her about how well you’re doing with the
ladies.
5) If she beings flirting back, then progress to
The Kiss Test and move things to a physical level.
You need to stop acting like a “girlfriend” and
start acting like a guy who makes women feel
ATTRACTION at a GUT level. But be careful, because
if you screw this one up, you’ll probably lose her
friendship as well.
***QUESTION***
I owe a lot of my success to you. I try the cocky
funny thing, and it does work thank you for that.
But I don’t like the whole one night stand thing.
I want to get a girl and do the whole boyfriend
thing. My question to you is HOW? I’ve met my
share of 7′s and 8′s, but they just aren’t what
I’m looking for.
Thank you in advance.
J.B. CA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, you’re not alone. I believe that MOST men
would prefer to meet a great girl and have a
fulfilling relationship. I really do believe this.
In my estimation, 80%-90% of men are ultimately
looking for a fantastic woman to enjoy a
relationship with.
One of the main reasons why I advocate learning
how to be successful with women and dating is IT’S
NOT EASY TO FIND A HAPPY, HIGH QUALITY,
EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY WOMAN!
You usually have to meet a lot of women before
you find a woman that is a great match for you…
a woman that you don’t feel like you’re “settling”
for.
In order to do that, you’re going to have to
have some real SKILLS and understanding of how the
dynamics of male/female ATTRACTION works.
Stick with it, you’re in a great place right
now, and I’ll bet that you’re going to meet
someone that you like very soon. But have fun
while you’re at it, because life is just too short
to run around feeling unsatisfied.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
Ive been reading your emails and i have been
applying some of it and i have found that most of
it works. That is great and all but I really don’t
like being cocky and funny i just like being my
sweet self. i like complementing left and right.
What i wanna know is why do women like it when a
guy is a little rude or just plain “full of
himself”. And another thing. Why is it that when a
woman starts complaining about her man or what
ever why is it that women Say they want a sweet
and sensitive guy who respects her feelings? But
in reality she doesn’t. It really doesn’t make a
whole lot of sense to me.
Laterz
DAL Florida
>>>MY COMMENTS:
With all due respect, please do all the women
you’re meeting a couple of favors:
1) Stop “complimenting left and right”.
2) Stop being “your sweet self”.
…unless, of course, you look like Brad Pitt
or have over $10 million dollars. In these cases,
do whatever you want.
For the first several interactions with a woman
(through the first 10 dates or so), DON’T ACT LIKE
A WUSSY!
When you act like a wuss and give lots of
compliments, you are doing what 98% of all the
other guys she’s meeting are doing. You’re being
average. You’re boring. You’re coming across as
fake and weak.
If you want to know why it is that women are
attracted to jerks, then read my book or come to
my seminar in Chicago. The short answer is that
WOMEN CAN’T HELP IT. They come wired at birth to
respond to many of the behaviors that many jerks
display. I believe that you can create ATTRACTION
inside of a woman by doing some of the things that
jerks do WITHOUT the abusive part.
Stay tuned for more…
***QUESTION***
Dave,
I sent my brother your tips and that same day he
bought the books. He was explaining to me how
great your advice i.. He went out the first
weekend that he bought the books…. then he is
calling me at 4 am… he is in 7th Heaven
expounding how wonderful he feels and how great
your advice is…and he is overweight and not
attractive at the moment. He has not been this
happy in over 5 years. Thanks for helping my
brother feel good about himself again.
My question is, .. I am in a serious relationship
and want to keep the energy alive. I have been
pouring myself to this woman and she loves me, but
I know that I am into her more than she is into me
(just a little) and I want to turn that
around….. I am probably going to ease up a
little and make her beg for it ….. is that the
right approach and can your book help me too?
M on Oahu, Hawaii
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, I think that the materials can help keep
relationships healthy and interesting, even though
I avoid giving relationship advice or talking
about the topic.
As I’ve said before, it’s not that I don’t like
relationships or don’t think they’re healthy…
I just happen to specialize in the stages
before the relationship, so that’s what I talk
about.
Thanks for your email, and I’m glad to hear
that your brother is getting this part of his life
together.
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
I figured I’d give this a try since I’m running
out of ideas. About 3 months back I met a
beautiful spanish girl from Miami after spending 2
months of talking to her online. The night before
we met I really screwed up by getting in an
argument with her and telling her not to email me
again. (Idiot I know!) The next day I regretted it
terribly but I got an email back from her saying
it was ok and she was happy, and that God told her
I wasn’t the guy for her anyway. I felt horrible.
I ended up getting her to meet me the same day,
brought her a rose, and just walked around the
mall and talked with her. She was absolutely
beautiful and I could almost feel tears in my eyes
because I wanted her so much and yet it seemed
there’s nothing I can do. We spent about 3 hours
just talking and then we departed because she had
to leave in a hurry to get home. We talked online
again and I managed to blurt out “Are you ever
going to tell me why you aren’t interested in me?”
and she responded by saying “lol it’s a long
story. it’s like I’ve known you all my life, just
not as a boyfriend.” I know I tried to move too
fast, and I did make some mistakes. But now I feel
it’s hopeless. She wants to be friends with me,
but nothing more and I can’t see it turning into
more. It’s like in front of me is this bag of a
million dollars that I just want to take, have a
great time with and so forth..but I know the money
isn’t mine and all I can do is stare at it,
wishing it was mine. I know it’s stupid but just
thinking how much I want her and knowing I don’t
stand a chance almost makes my eyes misty. I can’t
even meet her in person anymore because I keep
imagining her finding a boyfriend and then I’ll
have to pretend I’m happy for when I know it would
kill me. I just want to forget about her but I
can’t.. I don’t know what to do, it’s driving me
crazy.. I’ve never wanted anyone in my life so
much, and it’s the only girl that I want is the
one I can’t have. Is there anything I can do? Is
it time to give up? How can I forget about the
most beautiful woman I’ve ever met in my life?
Thank you for any help it is greatly appreciated.
Kind Regards,
S
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Oh Lord. I’m slapping my head right now…
somebody stop me.
Someone needs to shake the Wuss out of you!
Wake up, and stop this immediately!
You need serious help before you hurt yourself.
Go to:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/16874/eBook/
…before it’s too late. And maybe read a
couple of Wayne Dyer books from the 70s so you can
get control of those emotions. You’re freaking me
out over here.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hey dave you rock man i have been using your
techniques for about 6 months, and i can’t believe
how good it works..Not only that but most of my
friends want to know what the hell i am doing to
get all these girls, I have actually picked up and
slept with three different girls this week , and
if i had more free time it could have been more
like 4 or 5. There are 2 problems though that i do
find, when i have girls always hanging around me i
find that there are always guys that want to hang
around me too, and no word of a lie i have had
guys buy me drinks just to hang out with me, Maybe
you should write another book how to keep the
pathetic males away from the c$f technique, i’ll
never let the cat out of the bag the best i can do
for them is give them your website 
2) The more
girls i date the more confident i get which means
loooook out ladies…lolol seeeya dave keep up
the good work, also try to get a seminar in
Toronto k
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well then, you’re tearing it up out there.
Your techniques are working so well that even
GUYS are attracted to you. I don’t know whether to
kiss your or tell you to tone it down.
Maybe neither.
Whatever.
Thanks for the email, and maybe you’re going to
have to beat all those guys off with a stick.
I know, I know, but sometimes I just can’t help
myself…
***QUESTION***
I met a lady and was funny and cocky, but I was
too forward about sex and she blew me off. The
next time I met her, I said “I only want to be
friends”, then I gave her a foot, leg and a head
rub. She allowed me to continue this as I
explained why we could only be friends. I later
gave the kiss test and it was fireworks from
there. My question is: Why did telling her I only
wanted to be friends totally change how she
reacted to me? Confused and Satisfied.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Oh, don’t get me started on why reverse
psychology works with women…
Here’s a little insight for you:
WOMEN DON’T GENERALLY TAKE ANYTHING AT FACE
VALUE, THEY ARE ALWAYS TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHAT
EVERYTHING “MEANS”.
In other words, if you say “You’re beautiful” a
woman might think “What he REALLY means is that he
wants to get into my pants”.
If you say, “I just want to be friends” a woman
might thing “What he REALLY means is that he’s not
attracted to me… maybe there’s something wrong
here because most men fall all over themselves.
Maybe I don’t look good today. Maybe I’m losing my
beauty. Oh yea? I’ll show him… I’m going to MAKE
him feel attracted to me!”
Put that in your pipe and smoke it.
In the land of female perception and
interpretation, things are strange. But if you can
get it through your head to stop trying to
communicate directly and explicitly most of the
time, you’ll do much better all the way around.
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
I starting reading your Dating Tips from a guy
friend who prints them out and has them at his
house. Mostly for the sake of curiosity and to see
if you were really right. And any girl that
disagrees is totally not being honest, all your
stuff was right on. Your kiss test, perfect, the
cocky and funny attitude, I love, even if I act
like I don’t sometimes. Your approach to women is
exactly what girls like. It’s awesome how your
helping guys out by sharing your experience and
giving them pointers so they can become more
confident. There is nothing less attractive than a
wuss, I will totally be into a guy until he starts
acting like a wuss and I loose all interest in
him. I’m glad your letting guys know that.
I don’t know if you give advice to girls but,
while I’m writing, I have a really good guy
friend, we hang out probably twice a week (he
always calls to hang out, I won’t call guys unless
we are in a relationship) he confuses the hell out
of me. He’ll tell me about his dates and ask
advice from me, which makes me think he just
considers me a friend. But then I’ll be laying in
his lap and he’ll be rubbing my head and playing
with my hair. What do you think he thinks of me?
May seem like an obvious answer but he really does
confuse me. Hey, maybe he reads your stuff.
Anyway, I thought I’d write and let you know that
your right on the money, which you probably
already do know, but I read that email from that
other girl (the one with the grammar and spelling
problem) and was kind of ticked, she obviously
doesn’t know what she’s talking about and is
probably twelve by the way she was talking. Thanks
for helping all these guys out and telling them
what we really love!
V.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I love honest women. You forgot to include your
phone number and several classy-yet-sexy pictures
of yourself with your email.
Why is it that I tend to believe you more than
the girl at the beginning of this mailbag who was
all upset because I’m messing up her game?
As for your guy friend, I think he knows
EXACTLY what’s going on.
And because he’s not acting like a typical
loser, wienie, wussy boy, you’re REALLY getting
into him.
I think you should play hard to get a little
more, and start dating other guys, then tell HIM
about it! See what his reaction is. This will
settle the matter for you…
Thanks for your email, and don’t forget the
pictures.
***COMMENT***
Dave,
Just a quick note to say this stuff works just
like pressing a button. I have two teenage sons
entering the dating world. So, wanting to make
sure they would be big “Mack daddies”, like their
old man, I got your book. And of course I had to
preview all the material to insure quality and
readability. I laughed my a.. off! Even though I
am happily married, I could not resist using the
C&F, just to mess with them. Now I’ve got to
stop! Ladies of all ages, some nearly half my age
(43), coming on to me. And I mean heavy duty
obsessions. I am AFRAID! Guys, be careful with
this stuff!
Guy in Florida
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Amazing.
What’s up with you being the coolest dad that
I’ve personally ever heard of in my entire life?!
Emails like this one actually warm my heart.
Of course, I love making fun of girly-men too,
but this is just out of control.
If you’re a father of teenage boys, do them a
favor and teach them the skills they’ll need later
on.
At this stage you can weave ethics and
responsibility into the materials, and make sure
that they learn how to use the power with
responsibility, rather than just learning to be
jerks later in life who abuse women.
It’s a great idea.
***SUCCESS STORY***
I met a woman through the internet. She had
several pictures and a good profile posted. I
tried to keep our conversation fun. I suggested
that we meet some time for coffee or a toddy. She
told me she didn’t want to meet me because I would
then stop sending her such great emails. I sent
her an email, “What makes you think they won’t get
better”? She sent her phone number. I didn’t ask
to meet her again for about a week. She mailed me
and said, How will you know if you like or don’t
like me?” I mailed back, “I will know when we
touch”. I met her for a drink. I sat across from
her. We talked for a long time. Then I asked to
see her hand. I took it in mine and lightly kissed
it. She was trembling. I went to the mens room
and when I returned I sat next to her. I touched
and fondled her hair and commented that it was
pretty and she was also. I reached for her hand
again. She was trembling. I knew I could safely
kiss her then.
JB Little Rock, AR
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You have harnessed one of the most important
concepts for creating ATTRACTION:
ANTICIPATION.
Women respond VERY powerfully to anticipation,
and you’ve used it masterfully.
You kept on teasing her with ideas, then
leaning back and not letting her know when things
were going to progress.
Your short paragraph is an amazing example of
what TO do.
Thanks for the story.
***MORE SUCCESS***
You are the man! I am an 18 year old who just
graduated from high school, I downloaded your book
about 2 months ago. In that time I have gotten
with 3 hot chicks and made the 2 most gorgeous
girls at my high school to dump their boyfriends
and come crawling to me just by busting their
balls WHENEVER I talk to them, or any girl,
whether it be online or in person. I have dated
many girls, including the 2 gorgeous ones, and
things would go good for awhile, but then I would
get wussy syndrome and they would give me the
boot. Now I am in total control of the girls from
my school and I cant wait to go to college this
fall and use your techniques to make the GORGEOUS
girls come to me. I’ll keep ya posted about all
the success I will have with college chicks. I
have more confidence than ever. Every guy should
buy this book.
Thanks again,
J.K. Michigan
>>>MY COMMENTS:
As Christopher Walken said in the famous
Saturday Night Live Skit “More Cowbell”…
I LIKE WHAT I’M HEARING!
The question is, do you KNOW why these women
are now STAYING attracted to you?
It’s because you’re not turning into a WUSSBAG
instantly after getting the girl.
One of the biggest mistakes guys make is also
one of the most DIFFICULT to even UNDERSTAND.
It’s the mistake of finally GETTING the girl
that you want, then changing your behavior,
turning into an “ass-kissing wussy”, and pushing
the “stop feeling any attraction” button inside of
her.
You can’t blame a woman for leaving you because
she stops feeling emotions for you.
And when you CAUSE her to lose those feelings
of “electricity” and attraction, you’ve got no one
to blame but YOURSELF.
I know, it sucks huh?
As you’ve mentioned, one of the best ways to
create and maintain attraction is by using the
technique that I call “Cocky & Funny”. It’s a
“trademark” technique that I’ve learned and
developed over the last several years.
If you’d like to MASTER this techniqe and
really understand how to use this simple
communication style to create and maintain
attraction with women, then I HIGHLY recommend
that you check out my “Cocky Comedy And Other
Conversation Skills” DVD/CD program.
This is an entire program that I’ve created
JUST to teach you how to use humor and
conversation to make women feel attracted to you.
There is nothing like this program anywhere
else on the planet, and I assure you that it will
help you attract women… no gifts, dinners, or
insincere compliments required.
Go watch some video clips of the program here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/16874/CockyComedy/
If you’d like to learn about and master another
KEY aspect of attraction, then I also recommend
that you get yourself a copy of my “Body Language
For Success With Women And Dating” DVD program.
Inside you’ll learn why women use subtle body
language cues to make dozens of decisions about
you (including whether or not they even CONSIDER
you as a possible dating choice) within SECONDS of
meeting you (actually, women decide a lot BEFORE
they even meet you)…
And you’ll also learn how to make small changes
to your posture, walk, eye contact, and gestures
to DRAMATICALLY increase your attractiveness to
women.
If you haven’t gotten a copy of this program,
you really owe it to yourself to check it out.
Just like my Cocky Comedy program, I’ll send
this one to you to try for a full MONTH… at my
risk and expense… just because I know you’ll
like it FOR SURE.
Go get all the details, plus watch some sample
video clips here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/16874/BodyLanguage/
And if you haven’t taken the time to download
my online eBooks, you need to do that IMMEDIATELY.
You just read how guys have literally changed
their dating LIVES with the information in my
original Double Your Dating eBook. You can
download that one here, and be reading it within
just a few minutes:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/16874/eBook/
If you’ve already read that one, then you need
to go and download my latest book “Attraction
Isn’t A Choice”, and get a deeper understanding of
the INNER PSYCHOLOGY of Attraction. It’s here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/16874/AttractionBook/
I’ll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. Take a minute and look through the programs
I’ve created to help you learn how to attract,
approach, meet, and date the kinds of women
you’ve always wanted. You can see them all, plus
watch great video clips of each of them HERE:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/16874/Catalog/
P.P.S. If you’d like to send me a Success Story,
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1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs
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2) Tell me what’s working for you before you ask
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is great” and “I don’t need to tell you how well
your stuff works” comments, but the fact is that I
DO need to hear all of the specifics… because
this helps other guys to see what’s working in
different situations.
3) If you have a Success Story, write “Success
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and tell me where you’re from.
5) Send it to me at:
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Thanks!
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